When corporate norms often dictate behavior, how do you navigate the balance between authenticity and conformity? Authenticity is often described as “being your true self” and sharing your true ideas, thoughts, and feelings.

As I progressed in my career, a pivotal moment came when a 360-degree feedback assessment surprised me. Feedback is a gift, right? Yet, what do you do when that feedback suggests a need to embrace a behavior that feels inherently contrary to your nature?

“She is too nice; where is the nasty side?” “She has to show that she has claws and can use them.” “I don’t know if she has a nasty side. Maybe there is a roar in there, but there are never any teeth.” “People need to be more intimidated by her.” “She is too nice.“

These comments made me question my leadership style. Should I conform to these “expectations,” show a side that felt wrong, and emulate the behaviors of some of my peers?

Choose a different path with higher performance.

For me, authenticity is the cornerstone of leadership. It’s about being genuine and staying true to myself while navigating through the tangles of corporate norms and expectations. Amidst these norms, I chose a different path and carved a leadership style rooted in openness, active listening, and building genuine connections. I believe in celebrating achievements, addressing mistakes with empathy, and having constructive conversations in private—without needing claws or teeth. I made career changes, embraced vulnerability in new roles, and navigated unforeseen challenges. It wasn’t always easy. I masked some struggles initially, but it was draining. An empowering shift occurred when I embraced vulnerability, authenticity, sharing frustrations, and acknowledging challenges. My authenticity paved the way for deeper connections and understanding, which led to positive actions and higher-performing teams that delivered results.

Three steps to being more authentic:

1. Self-Reflection and Clarity

Authenticity begins with understanding yourself. It’s crucial to have clarity on your values, beliefs, and aspirations. Embracing authenticity meant acknowledging my desire for learning, leading with empathy, and shunning intimidation as a leadership tactic.

2. Embracing Vulnerability

Authenticity is a key ingredient to vulnerability. Opening up and sharing your genuine thoughts and feelings, even when uncomfortable, builds deeper connections with others. This is particularly important when you are faced with new professional challenges or leadership roles.

3. Setting Boundaries

Authenticity demands setting personal boundaries aligned with your values. Learning to say no when situations don’t resonate with your true self is paramount. I realized I could be an effective leader without compromising my authenticity and navigate challenges without resorting to tactics that didn’t align with my core values.

Being authentic has been so important during my career and personal growth because it has brought me closer to a fulfilling life—a life rooted in genuine connections, impactful contributions, and a steadfast commitment to staying true to myself. Authenticity isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach. It’s about embracing your own unique journey, seeking clarity, allowing vulnerability, and setting boundaries that resonate with your core values.